It’s a WE deal!


You ever get the feeling that you just aren’t helpful or effective? That no one hears what you are saying? That they just don’t get the point? Well I do! But I have had it beat into my head that feelings aren’t facts! I’ve been told that since I got to AA. None of my sponsors have coddled me or listened to me whine about my “so-called” problems! It always been “where did you start the ball rolling”, or “what is your part in this” or “Man you really are sicker than I thought!”. I’m just kidding about the last one! Although it has been said to me and it is a realization I have come to myself!

But I am not the first one in the program to feel useless or it wouldn’t have talked about it in the bedevilments on page 52 of the Big Book. But God has always provided what I needed, as long as I have been wiling enough to look for it and to give Him credit. There was a period of time that I sponsored no one, truly I didn’t have what anyone wanted or what I wanted either. But when I finally started doing the work again and quit isolating myself from the people that had the answer and from the program, fellowship and service…..I began to get better.

Well that period of time was a while ago and I am not devoid of sponsees anymore. I actually went from 2 to 4 in one day! My first thought was…. “Man, God must think I’m real sick right now!” Truth be told, I love these women I sponsor! It lights me on fire when I see the light bulb come on! It’s better than any high I ever got off dope and booze! The book even tells us about it!

“Life will take on new meaning. To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends — this is an experience you must not miss. We know you will not want to miss it. Frequent contact with newcomers and with each other is the bright spot of our lives”.- Big Book page 89

Man has that been my truth! What a blessing and a promise! To go from a self-absorbed, self-centered, “me and mine” girl to wanting to help someone else…… I am amazed! Of course none of that would ever happen if I didn’t have God to reduce all the self, self, self! That was and is definitely a Big part of the equation!

“You are going to meet these new friends in your own community. Near you, alcoholics are dying helplessly like people in a sinking ship. If you live in a large place, there are hundreds. High and low, rich and poor, these are future fellows of Alcoholics Anonymous. Among them you will make lifelong friends. You will be bound to them with new and wonderful ties, for you will escape disaster together and you will commence shoulder to shoulder your common journey. Then you will know what it means to give of yourself that others may survive and rediscover life. You will learn the full meaning of “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” Big Book page 152-153

I have found them! I have made lifelong friends! I am bound to them, for they are my people! I have escaped disaster because they showed me the way out! I journey with them! I have experienced giving of myself, my time, my experience so that WE can not only survive but live! I have learned the meaning of “Love thy neighbor as thyself”! And I have been shown how to do this by some of the most wonderful people that were once hopeless just like me! It’s a WE deal! I get it!

It is freaking AMAZING!!!

9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. longstoryblog
    Feb 16, 2014 @ 22:56:48

    So happy for you!!

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  2. carrythemessage
    Feb 17, 2014 @ 07:05:44

    I totally get where you are coming from. I was just talking to someone yesterday about not having a sponsee for the first time in a while. The last guy I worked with parted ways a few months ago, and to be honest, I was happy with the break. But I am getting that feeling again that I would like to work with someone. Which means I need to get to more than just one meeting a week. Start reconnecting again, as you did. So I will see and pray and look forward to working with more guys.

    Congrats on your service work with the women there…what a joy, I know! There certainly is a buzz about it 🙂

    Paul

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  3. livingproof311
    Feb 17, 2014 @ 10:45:25

    This is written beautifully and in a way that alcoholics of all types can potentially relate. I am new to my ‘second term’ of AA but I am slowly but surely learning all that you have said. The relationship I have with my sponsor is amazing because she helps me so much; and along with that, she says that sponsoring me helps her a ton too. It’s a beautiful dynamic.

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  4. esah8
    Feb 17, 2014 @ 17:21:20

    I love your sense of humor! I remember telling someone its eye opening when you realize your one of the REALLY sick ones..hehe. When all else fails. Ain’t that the truth! Keep on keeping on 😉

    Reply

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